Lord have mercy, when I said I was excited for a bit of summer quiet way back in early July, I didn't mean radio silence until nearly September! I feel like I'm always apologizing for not posting often enough, but I've had houseguests and went to Portugal and birthed new projects, like my new Hard Lacquer beauty column at Autostraddle! I've been inspired to up my game where photography is concerned, so I'm hoping that translates to posting more awesome stuff for y'all, much more often!
I also shared my secret family bourbon slush recipe, and helped you figure out what you should DEFINITELY wear past 30. I've also dyed my hair twice, fallen in love with Octavia Butler's writing and the jaw-droppingly beautiful and bizarre space opera/fantasy comic series Saga, seen a bit of live music, tried (and failed) to catch some public art, and caught up with friends for sweaty summer glasses of rosé.
Farewell, Sweet friend
An old pal tapped me to take on an interior design project, so that'll be an interesting fall project beginning soon. On a sad note, I found out that one of the horses I used to help care for passed on a little while ago. I lost at least one or two pairs of Ray-Bans riding him, my dignity more than I care to admit when his alpha punk antics (or maybe mine) tossed me out of the saddle, and brand new tack one time he bolted out of a stall, leapt through a fence and into the neighbor's yard, where I had to use a torn scrap of rein to gently lead him home even though he was terrified and bloodied, both of us shaking like a leaf.
But I also lost a lot of fear thanks to Koda, and every time I wanted a challenge or to get better, I'd tack him up first. He taught me tons about humility and patience and bravery. I was so lucky to get to care for this handsome guy for a time.
SUPPORT FFAF at SXSW!
If you follow FFAF on Facebook, you might've seen the exciting news, perfectly written up by dear friend and fellow femme, Anita Dolce Vita (Owner/Creative Director/Editor-in-Chief at DapperQ):
South by Southwest (SXSW) is an annual internationally acclaimed series of film, interactive technology, and music conferences and festivals that occurs each spring in Austin, Texas. Since SXSW’s inception in 1987, the event has become a leading trendsetter in a variety of industries, including fashion. Blogger Michelle Persad’s “Why SXSW May Be Even More Important Than Fashion Week” states, “The future of fashion will focus more about what’s online instead of on the runway. As the entire industry becomes more democratized, it isn’t crazy to think that SXSW is going to become one of the most important style events of the year.”
This is precisely why SXWS has become a powerhouse influencer in the fashion industry, and also precisely why queer style needs to be represented – and appropriately represented – at this annual event! 2015 marked the first time SXSW featured an entire stream called SXstyle, dedicated to exploring the relationship between art, fashion, culture and technology; but as one might suspect, the lineup could have featured more diverse voices. This year, dapperQ, which is QPOC owned and operated, submitted a proposal to SXSW to host a panel discussion and fashion show/presentation to showcase, discuss, and celebrate queer style. And, wouldn’t ya know: We were selected for the second round of voting!"
Queer inclusion at SXSW is long overdue and exciting no matter what, but I am really honored to be included in this incredible panel. Anita's website, dapperQ, is a fashion powerhouse that caters to the unconventionally masculine, and my other co-panelists' endeavors skew masculine-of-center as well — pal Sonny Oram from Qwear and Leon Wu, Founder of Sharpe Suiting. I'm thrilled to bring a vital femme perspective and inclusive femme audience to the panel, but it's not a done deal — in order to show the SXSW judges that queer style deserves visibility and and recognition, we need your votes!
Out of over 3500 entries, only 22 are LGBT-focused, and of those just two pertain to queer style. With SXSW pushing their style programming so aggressively, we clearly need representation at that table! Take a quick minute to learn more, create an account (it's so fast, I promise), and vote your little hearts out. You can also show us love in the comments, if you'd like!
More soon, sweet readers! XO!